Time To Be Thankful

 Lake Tekapo

Christmas is just a few sleeps away and normally at this time of the year many of us are reflecting on the people and experiences that we are thankful for. 

However we also need to be grateful to ourselves. This is fairly uncommon since we are more comfortable expressing gratefulness to others. Research shows that taking the time to thank ourselves  for the qualities that have carried us through life is healthy and important. Even if doing so seems egotistical and can make one feel awkward.

Psychologists say that self gratititude does not come naturally since the human brain has evolved to look for problems as a way of staying safe since everyday life requires an awareness of immediate dangers. Our ancestors who sat down and relaxed were more likely to be eaten by lions. Those who dwelled on where the dangers may be were more likely to stay alive.

We also need to teach this skill to our children too as research shows that low self esteem in children and teens are linked to alcohol use, drunk driving and self harm (Gartland et al, 2019).

So especially during this year end holiday season (and beyond), spend at least 5 minutes a day looking at yourself with compassion and thanking yourself.

Acknowlegde your own positive qualities, efforts and resilience. Recognize your achivements, forgive your own mistakes, appreciate your own growth and consciously give yourself credit for who you are and what you do.

Reference

Gartland D, Riggs E, Muyeen S et al (2019). What factors Are Associated With Resilient Outcomes In Children Exposed To Social Adversity? A Systematic Review. BMJ Open. 9: e024870. DOI: 10.1136/bmcopen-2018-024870